I am Dr. Cindy Freer Conley and I am so glad you are here! It is so nice to “meet” you. I am entering the world of blogging for the first time, I hope you find these readings worthwhile, helpful and entertaining. I have spent my career of over 30 plus years in one role or another of the mental health and counseling world. I have worked in private practice and in schools settings. I hold a PhD in Exceptional Education with a concentration in Applied Behavior Analysis and a couple of other degrees in School and Human Services Counseling and Exceptional Education. I currently work in public education full time and adjunct part-time at a nearby university. I am here because I have learned such a great deal along life’s roads that I think might be helpful to share. Throughout my career there has always been one constant…. one slight change can indeed create subsequent changes. I only recently began to fully understand the possibilities of this concept as I studied Behavior Analysis while working on my PhD. I wonder what we can do for ourselves, our families, our communities and our world if we can use that knowledge for good. But first, please understand you will find no perfection at my door, I am on this journey with you as we work together to improve our worlds.
Now that you know more about the professional me, how about the personal me? I grew up in the Midwest and moved to the Southeast, that sounds so funny to me ….. not west or south, but specifically Midwest and Southeast. I am so glad that I found my path closer to warmer weather and the ocean. I love the ocean, I could sit and listen to it all day long, I think that is a place where my soul finds peace. I wish I were closer or could go more often. In my free time, I enjoy photography and soon will pick sewing back up. Recently completing graduate school means I am still working to remember what free time is. I am a wife and the mother of three adult children and the grandmother of one young lady. It seems they all grew up so much faster than I ever could have anticipated. I didn’t have all of the answers as a mother, although my kids would probably tell you I faked it often (I did, more often than they are aware of). I don’t have all of the answers now, but I do know so much more now than I did 27 years ago when I became a parent. My ex-husband and I were foster parents along the way and adopted a young man that lived with us, so while I became a parent for the first time 27 years ago, my eldest is actually 37 – a fact that the boys love to bicker about. I married my best friend when I was younger, and as is too often the case, that marriage ended badly. I worked as a Marriage and Family Therapist and viewed my divorce as one of my biggest failures, I have since learned life isn’t always perfect and I needed to learn to let myself off the hook. I was a single mother for several years, and learned a lot about the unique struggles single parents face. I have spent time with great supports and time where I felt alone on my path – only to look up and realize I was never alone. We are all on a journey, enjoy the journey, but understand small changes on your part may make lasting impacts to yourself and to someone else who is also on this journey of life.
I created this blog for a variety of reasons, but honestly the most significant reason is for our future. I have spent my career working to help individuals, families, teachers, schools, and even communities better understand ways we can take better care of our kids. It is my hope to use this as a vehicle that will benefit all; but most especially our children – they are the future you know. I hope that you find my writing is casual, I often write as if we are in a conversation together. It will be so nice to “meet” you. Please take a moment to follow and email if you so desire. It is my goal to provide a twice weekly blog… and here’s to goals (it is January, always a good time for a new goal).