I Shall Have Cheesecake

Happy Birthday to me…. Thank you for stopping by to share in my birthday party! I find the celebrations change as we get older, yet I continue to celebrate. You see, I am glad I am having a birthday. I really don’t mind the age. Now, let’s be honest, I could do without all the aches and pains. And the gray hair, thank goodness for beauticians and color. But I am okay with the age. Celebrating my birthday means I was here for another trip around the sun. It means I was able to participate with my family and loved ones in all kinds of activities and events over the last 365 days. My birthday is special, I know yours is too, and yes indeed it is. Mine however, falls on the very last day of the month three years out of four. And that last year, my birthday falls on the second to the last day. Pretty cool, I know you are thinking that right now, and you are right! Most of you cannot claim that very insignificant claim to fame. That is life you know, full of lots of insignificant, yet significant to someone, events.

Birthday Traditions

My birthday is like that. At this point in my life, you would think, that I would see my birthday as just another day. But I don’t. I want to celebrate and enjoy the day. I will do nothing spectacular, but it will be significant. I think we should create significant ways to do our lives. That looks different for each of us, because what is significant to each of us is different, kind of like the kaleidoscope, always changing. This year my birthday will be a dinner with my parents. I don’t know what we will have, or even where we will eat. Their house? A restaurant? I don’t know, but I do know that I will eat with them and be very thankful of the opportunity to share my birthday dinner with them. Macaroni and cheese, loaded potato soup, steak and shrimp… I don’t care about the meal, but the people matter. That will make the event significant to me. Later, I will also get a have a dinner with my family. I hope to top it all off with a granddaughter dinner next weekend. Birthday week – that’s a pretty good idea. Perhaps I should consider this for the future. Perhaps you should too? How do you celebrate your birthday? What great family traditions do you do?

Celebrate You!

Birthdays provide opportunities for us to take a moment out of our day and celebrate each other. Our family birthday traditions have evolved. We were the people who always had a cake, presents, and a dinner for the birthday girl/boy. As we got older, somehow it occurred to some of us that not everyone likes cake. I know, odd right? I learned this lesson from one of my children, well two of the actually. I recall when my very young daughter announced that she wanted cheesecake for her birthday. Who eats cheesecake for birthdays?? Well, it was her day, so I made my first cheesecake. Years later I learned I have another child who doesn’t like cake. How can this be? He doesn’t like cake, but he loves brownies. So, birthday brownies it is. Why do we have to do cake? It is so funny to me how sometimes we do what we have always done simply because we have always done it. It is time to move past that mentality. Let’s do things because it makes sense, because we want it, maybe because it’s what you have in the cupboard, or it’s what it you can afford. But not just because we have always done it that way. I remember noticing my son had eaten no cake, and it occurred to me that it made no sense to bake or buy him a cake – he didn’t want one. It is okay for us to create new traditions in our lives. This year, I have purchased cheesecake for my birthday cake and I am kind of excited about it. I didn’t just get a cheesecake, I got the variety pack – that means everyone can chose their own slice. Pretty cool right? I love that, I love that we can grow into new things. I am always excited by growth even in areas that may seem insignificant. Because let’s face it, if you care about something it is no longer insignificant. Enjoy your day, I plan to enjoy mine. Thank you for spending part of your day with me!

Published by Dr. Cindy Freer Conley

Hello Friends! I am Dr. Cindy Freer Conley, and I am so glad you are here! It is so nice to "meet" you. I am entering the world of blogging for the first time, I hope you find these readings worthwhile, helpful and entertaining. I have spent my career in one role or another of the mental health and counseling world. I have worked in private practice and in schools settings. I hold a PhD in Exceptional Education with a concentration in Applied Behavior Analysis. I currently work in public education full time and adjunct part-time. I am a wife and the mother of three adult children and the grandmother of one young lady who is growing up way too fast. I didn't have all of the answers as a mother, although my kids would probably tell you I faked it often (I did). I don't have all of the answers now, but I do know so much more now than I did 27 years ago when I became a parent. I was a single mother for several years, and learned a lot about the unique struggles single parents face. I have spent time with great supports and time where I felt alone on my path - only to look up and realize I was never alone. We are all on a journey, enjoy the journey, but understand small changes on your part may make lasting impacts to someone else's journey.

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