Taking a Minute to Regroup

I am doing something a little different this week, bear with me, I think you might like it. I was recently reminded that we all need a minute every now and then… this is apart of mine.

My Own Pause

Sometimes in my life I find that I need to hit a Pause button and regroup.  You know, take a minute, do some soul searching, maybe even a little planning and then move forward.  To be perfectly honest with you, that is not always easy for me to do.  I am in the process of doing that now with a couple of areas of my life—this blog is in a Pause and Regroup phase.  I put it there.  That was not easy for me, but I found that I needed to do that. So now I am planning better for my writing time.  I found that I have such fun writing and planning a new blog post that I was putting other things on the back burner.  Ouch… that is a little painful to admit.  But you know what, I told you a long time ago that I will write this like a conversation.  So, let’s have a conversation about priorities and life.

Values Lived

I recently wrote about Five Minutes; you can find that post by clicking on this link if you would like to read it again. I do think it is important that others can see what is important in your life by the way you live your life.  Is not important for them, but for you. If you value something it should show. If it does not show, if there is no evidence of what you value, well then do you really value it? If you value humor you should been seen laughing.  If work is important to you then I would expect you to have a work ethic.  If family matters to you, well then, I should be able to see you making them a priority.  If being sober is important than I should see that in your life.  If self-control, then I should see evidence of that in your life.  You get the idea.  The writing was centered around the fact that others should be able to see the things you value by looking at your life. 

Growing Daily

Taking that thought a step farther, do we plan around those things we value?  It seems to me that we should be growing in the areas that matter to us.  We have not each arrived at our destination of greatness, we have some work to do.  We will get there, we will be great, but today we are works in progress.  I will learn new things about life daily, so will you, we can learn things together.  But we will each learn.  Along the way we should be investing in and learning about the things that matter to us. 

Be a Sponge… Not an Umbrella

In order for me to learn new things I must first admit that I do not know all things.  Sometimes that’s hard.  I’m pretty sure you are saying “No it’s not Cindy, it is easy to admit I do not know everything.”  I am glad to hear that.  I cannot tell you the number of times I tried to teach new things to individuals who really needed to learn but were unwilling.  I also cannot tell you the number of times I needed to learn something new but was unwilling. It would seem that knowledge cast upon an unwilling heart is like rain on an umbrella—it just bounces off.  I want to be more like a sponge in this area.  I want to soak it all in.  You have an idea for me about being a better parent, please share it.  You think I could do better with my finances, I’m game to listen.  I am willing to consider other ways to arrive at my destination of greatness.  I believe we can achieve so much more by learning from each other.

Evaluating Goals

As I take time to hit Pause and Regroup, I am mindful of my goals.  I want to be able to make my faith and my family my first priorities, followed by my work.  I want to make a difference in the world.  I want my children to look at my example and to do it better in their own lives.  There are so many things I want.  It is important to me that I occasionally hit Pause in my life to re-evaluate who I am, where I am, and where I am going.  I encourage you to take a few minutes and consider a Pause

Hitting Your Pause

Think about it, you could hit Pause, even if it’s only for a few minutes.  Do it now.  Who are you?  How would others describe you?  Are you good with that?  If not, what would you want to change?  What do you value?  Do others see that in your life?  What is the evidence in your life of the things you value?  If there is no evidence in your daily living of the things you value maybe you should consider reorganizing your daily life slightly?  You do not have to do this alone, none of us do.  I know the world is different than it was even a couple of years ago, but some things have not changed.  You are not alone, you may feel alone, and if you do I am so sorry. But I am glad that you are not alone, none of us are. We simply do not have to do life alone. Call a friend, call a family member, go to your child’s school, go to a local church, call a counselor, but call someone and tell them you want help with regrouping your life.  You are not alone, we are all in this together.  We can all move towards greatness together.  Do not just talk about who you want to be… become that person.  Be the good in yourself and bless the important people in your life with your greatness.  Enjoy your journey and remember to hit Pause for a few minutes every now and then.  Regrouping is ok, it helps keep us grounded and it helps move each of us towards greatness together.  Thank you for spending part of your day with me.  Be blessed my friends.

Published by Dr. Cindy Freer Conley

Hello Friends! I am Dr. Cindy Freer Conley, and I am so glad you are here! It is so nice to "meet" you. I am entering the world of blogging for the first time, I hope you find these readings worthwhile, helpful and entertaining. I have spent my career in one role or another of the mental health and counseling world. I have worked in private practice and in schools settings. I hold a PhD in Exceptional Education with a concentration in Applied Behavior Analysis. I currently work in public education full time and adjunct part-time. I am a wife and the mother of three adult children and the grandmother of one young lady who is growing up way too fast. I didn't have all of the answers as a mother, although my kids would probably tell you I faked it often (I did). I don't have all of the answers now, but I do know so much more now than I did 27 years ago when I became a parent. I was a single mother for several years, and learned a lot about the unique struggles single parents face. I have spent time with great supports and time where I felt alone on my path - only to look up and realize I was never alone. We are all on a journey, enjoy the journey, but understand small changes on your part may make lasting impacts to someone else's journey.

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