Lonely…. or Royalty?

Today my writing was slightly different, I hope you enjoy my journey with you. I am writing to you from a table in the center of a restaurant. I do feel the need to tell you that I don’t sit at tables, thus I don’t sit in the center of the restaurant. Personally, I like a booth because it feels a little more private. I can sit off to the side of the restaurant and people watch without feeling like someone is people watching me. However, I also have this favorite waitress. So, I am willing to compromise my table selection for my waitress selection, and today is such a day. Now, mind you, I don’t mean I am at the center of the room within a group of tables. I mean in the center, all alone! We are off in a room and because there is a large group on one side and a small group on the other side…. and, well, here I sit. One more little fact, I am indeed sitting alone. You have joined me, so it is you and I now. Today is one of those rare times when my family is all going in different directions and my direction was brunch after church.

You Have to be Kidding Me?

I waited patiently for my table; I am always willing to wait to sit in my Hailey’s section. She isn’t my Hailey; for we are not related at all. As a matter of fact, we met her when she waited on us years ago. She was the girl with the purple in her hair, a smile on her face, and excellent service every single time. She rapidly became our favorite sever, and now our friend. Our friendship with her has evolved into something that blesses us. So, we always wait for her section. I will give up my place in line and patiently wait for I have come to see my friend as much as enjoy my meal. I was willing to wait for a table in our sweet friend’s section. So, wait I did, a little longer than I anticipated, but some things are worth waiting for and Hailey is one of those things. Imagine my surprise when I was offered a table sitting in the middle of a room. This is usually a “do you have something else available?” table. I seriously thought about it, but it seemed to be a fairly rude comment as I had already requested sitting in Hailey’s section. So I sat, and cringed inside while I waited for my friend.

Perspective is Everything

As I sat, I began to write to you. Sitting in the middle of a room is much easier to do when you have a phone to look at. I began this blog thinking about comfort zones, but the longer I sat, the more my focus changed. I began to embrace my position in the room. I had the perfect vantage point to people watch everyone. And I wondered what they thought of me… “Why is she alone,” “How awkward, sitting by yourself in the middle of the room,” “Aren’t you glad that’s not us, sitting in the middle of the room?” Then it occurred to me that my countenance and my attitude, my perspective, had everything to do with whether I was content with my seat or uncomfortable. At the end of my meal another waitress brought a chair to my table with a question of “Would you mind if we returned the extra chairs to your table?” For you see, I was sitting at a table with only two chairs, they had used the rest for the party. I assured her it would be fine and thank you for asking as “I am indeed the center of the room.” She returned with, “Well, if you are the Queen of the room, you should certainly act the part.” And we laughed, but she had a point; act the part, enjoy the moment, embrace the position. Here’s to the moments in our lives, may we embrace them even if they feel awkward and uncomfortable. By the way, I had a really nice brunch, with excellent food and service, as always. See you next Sunday Hailey! And as for me, I will chose royalty over lonely any day of the week – sometimes it’s all about attitude! Thank you, friends, for spending your time with me, be blessed.

Published by Dr. Cindy Freer Conley

Hello Friends! I am Dr. Cindy Freer Conley, and I am so glad you are here! It is so nice to "meet" you. I am entering the world of blogging for the first time, I hope you find these readings worthwhile, helpful and entertaining. I have spent my career in one role or another of the mental health and counseling world. I have worked in private practice and in schools settings. I hold a PhD in Exceptional Education with a concentration in Applied Behavior Analysis. I currently work in public education full time and adjunct part-time. I am a wife and the mother of three adult children and the grandmother of one young lady who is growing up way too fast. I didn't have all of the answers as a mother, although my kids would probably tell you I faked it often (I did). I don't have all of the answers now, but I do know so much more now than I did 27 years ago when I became a parent. I was a single mother for several years, and learned a lot about the unique struggles single parents face. I have spent time with great supports and time where I felt alone on my path - only to look up and realize I was never alone. We are all on a journey, enjoy the journey, but understand small changes on your part may make lasting impacts to someone else's journey.

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