Positive Spins

“I love you.”

“I love you too!” “

“Thank you for loving me.”

Welcome to a constant exchange in the early years of my parenting experience. Even as a young mother, I knew I wanted my kids to know how important they were to me, how much I loved them and how thankful I was for the opportunity to be their parent. What a gift it has indeed been. Easy, it has not always been, but life is not always easy and even on the rough days I wanted them to know they were loved. If you ask, I am certain they will tell you I said it too much. But is that possible? The mother in me says no!


I wonder sometimes if I say “I love you” enough in the other areas of my life? No, I really don’t go around all day telling random strangers, or even good friends for that matter, that I love them. But perhaps we should. Did you ever sit and wonder about the interactions you have with others? How was someone else’s day influenced by your presence? Regardless of whether they “deserved” it or not, how did your presence influence someone else’s day? Are you the drive through person? You know, the one who is in a hurray and impatient with the new server at the window? You thought I was going to ask you if you were the drive through person that pays for someone else’s meal didn’t you? Well, are you? What about the secretary behind the counter at the business you just walked into? How did you treat her? Or the teller at the bank, where your account is low, were you kind? How do you treat the people you come into contact with on any given day?


Do we have an obligation to treat others well? Of course we do! That feels like a no brainer doesn’t it? But what if they were not kind to us? What is my obligation then? What if I am tired, what if I had a bad day? I guess I would pose the question to you…. how does your behavior affect yourself and the other person. While you are pondering this, parents, remember you are being watched… every single move. I am frequently reminded of the importance of kindness by, yes you guessed it, one of my own kids. I guess I taught them well, and it’s a good thing, because sometimes they have to remind me. And I am so glad they do, because when I am kinder I feel better, and I like to feel good.


Spin the Kaleidoscope, remember only a slight movement changes the view. Find a positive perspective for each day and share that positive view with the people around you. I can almost hear you asking me if I do that. Nope, not always and not enough. But today I shall, for I am reminded of the need to not only find the good in my day, but also to share that good and to help improve someone else’s day. I do not tell the world that I love them, but I do hope to positively impact the days of those around me. I need to work on it more. Today, I need to be more positive and leave positive impact on others. Join me in it – let us begin the day with an attitude of thankfulness towards those around us. You never know who can you can truly influence. And you never know who truly needed it.

I love you, thank you for being here!

Published by Dr. Cindy Freer Conley

Hello Friends! I am Dr. Cindy Freer Conley, and I am so glad you are here! It is so nice to "meet" you. I am entering the world of blogging for the first time, I hope you find these readings worthwhile, helpful and entertaining. I have spent my career in one role or another of the mental health and counseling world. I have worked in private practice and in schools settings. I hold a PhD in Exceptional Education with a concentration in Applied Behavior Analysis. I currently work in public education full time and adjunct part-time. I am a wife and the mother of three adult children and the grandmother of one young lady who is growing up way too fast. I didn't have all of the answers as a mother, although my kids would probably tell you I faked it often (I did). I don't have all of the answers now, but I do know so much more now than I did 27 years ago when I became a parent. I was a single mother for several years, and learned a lot about the unique struggles single parents face. I have spent time with great supports and time where I felt alone on my path - only to look up and realize I was never alone. We are all on a journey, enjoy the journey, but understand small changes on your part may make lasting impacts to someone else's journey.

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