Embrace the Journey

I have this friend that I’m a little jealous of, some days more than a little jealous.   She is bolder than I and willing to go out and do the things that she enjoys. Do you know why? Because she enjoys them! What a novel idea right? She has taken well to the life of retirement, but still cycles and runs… and her fashion sense!  I love that her earrings never match but always coordinate. Who would have of thought of wearing a dog and a bone for earrings? She has sandals on all year, no matter the weather.  Even in the winter months she has sandals with toe socks.  The way she embraces life warms my heart and encourages me to do the same. I finally got bold enough to wear a silver snowman and a silver snowflake, because how cute right? An observer reminded me that my earrings didn’t match. But I I thought about it and realized what they intended as insulting I found as complementary. I had watched my friend with her unmatched earrings for years, maybe I was getting bolder after all. It occurs to me even as I write this that I have several friends like this. It seems I have surrounded myself with people are willing to enjoy the journey of their life – what a great idea!

We spend so much time worrying about what our perceptions of what other people think.  What about enjoying life?  What about riding a bike after 50?  Why not?  Seems like a good way to enjoy a day.  We often pass on the things we want to do from a fear of acceptance.  I wonder what would happen if we each took a page from my friend’s book and opted to embrace each day and make the most of it?  I like to take photos, but when I am out in public I worry about people thinking I am odd taking a photo of this or that.  It is time to learn from my friend – stress less and enjoy more. I like to ride my husband’s motorcycle with him. But I do often wonder what people think when I have difficulties getting off and on. I like to ride a bicycle, but am I too old for that? Who gets to decide these things? Well, me of course, so why am I letting my perceptions of others thoughts weigh me down?

Somewhere there is a poem about wearing purple when I am old and embracing all the things I passed on in my youth.  We need to be responsible and make healthy choices for ourselves and our family while we embrace life, but we need to embrace life! I am not advocating we go out and jump from planes, well I guess if that’s your thing… but it is not mine.  But I am advocating we find things in our daily life, healthy things, things we can enjoy and we go do them.  How about I worry less about whether you think I’m old or out of shape or overweight and I worry more about how fun it was to hike to the bottom of the falls for the photo!  

I don’t have to wait until I’m old to wear purple, and neither do you. We need celebrate life every single day and do things that create happiness each day. If it makes me happy to go for a bicycle ride, why don’t I go? Because I’m worried that people will think I’m too old to be riding a bicycle? What if I want to take salsa lessons, but I don’t have a partner, should I go? Should I ask a friend to take dancing lessons with me? Is that too intimidating, and why would it be intimidating? Why don’t we run races? Why don’t we ride bicycles? Why don’t we have dessert with our dinner? Why not learn a new skill like archery or dancing or bowling? Why not go to the movies by yourself on a Saturday? We worry about our perceptions of the opinions of others instead of finding the joy in the things that we like. Spend more time riding bicycles, go for walks, go out to breakfast even if you have to eat alone, dance the dance. Be more like my friend and celebrate life even in the little things.

Wear your purple now and enjoy the moments, the little ones and the big ones.

Published by Dr. Cindy Freer Conley

Hello Friends! I am Dr. Cindy Freer Conley, and I am so glad you are here! It is so nice to "meet" you. I am entering the world of blogging for the first time, I hope you find these readings worthwhile, helpful and entertaining. I have spent my career in one role or another of the mental health and counseling world. I have worked in private practice and in schools settings. I hold a PhD in Exceptional Education with a concentration in Applied Behavior Analysis. I currently work in public education full time and adjunct part-time. I am a wife and the mother of three adult children and the grandmother of one young lady who is growing up way too fast. I didn't have all of the answers as a mother, although my kids would probably tell you I faked it often (I did). I don't have all of the answers now, but I do know so much more now than I did 27 years ago when I became a parent. I was a single mother for several years, and learned a lot about the unique struggles single parents face. I have spent time with great supports and time where I felt alone on my path - only to look up and realize I was never alone. We are all on a journey, enjoy the journey, but understand small changes on your part may make lasting impacts to someone else's journey.

10 thoughts on “Embrace the Journey

  1. Thanks for reminding me to enjoy the life God has blessed me with. Next time I step out and do what I know will make my day more enjoyable, I will think of you!


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